Whoever fears the LORD has a secure fortress,
and for their children it will be a refuge.
Insecurity. Have you ever wrestled with it? I just arose from a knock-down, drag-out match with this formidable opponent. Not pretty. So of course, I did my "Bible" google on the word...nope, couldn't find it. So then I searched for any opposites. The opposite of insecure is secure. Bingo.
Digging to the root verbal meaning, I found associated with security: To strengthen my countenance and put on a shameless look*. Yes! That's what I need when I feel the most insecure. But how did I get here and how do I rise above?
What makes me feel insecure? Well, sometimes I feel less fun, less interesting, less happy-go-lucky, less attractive, less confident...while I feel more strict, more naggy, more parental, more nosy, more bossy than I want to. And before I know it, tapping on my shoulder for one more boxing round is my familiar foe: insecurity.
Can I just tell you that I am a Christian--and sometimes I worry about my kids and my job and my future? That I am a Christian, and though I serve a God who is omnipotent and omnipresent, my mind races so much when my head hits the pillow at night that sleep eludes me? That I am a Christian, but sometimes I feel unsure of myself and less-than? Sometimes I am just not the mom I really want to be, and I fear my kids will find a replacement who is less of what they need but more of what they want. Sigh. Even for me, a born-again Christian, the road is messy and bumpy and full of potholes that knock the alignment right out of my walk.
So how do we whip insecurity? If we look at Proverbs 14:6 carefully, we need to zone in on the first part: "whoever fears the LORD." Ahh...now we're on to something. Revering the Lord. Once I begin pulling my mind in this direction, my face and eyes begin to change. I'm now looking at the Lord and not my circumstances. I press myself to remember that my heavenly Father is unchanging and true, so unlike the shifting sands of my temporal emotions and feelings. Not only do I benefit from squaring this out with the Lord, but so do my children!
To beat insecurity I must take captive those thoughts that are contrary to the Truth (a knock-down, drag-out match of a different flavor). I must remind myself repeatedly that I am to fear the Lord, not man. Not only does my heart begin to change internally, but my facial expressions begin to bear witness and my eyes begin to shine from my reverence for the Lord. And suddenly, by the power of the Spirit within me, the tide of the battle shifts.
Is it really this easy? Of course not. It's warfare. But Truth always rises, and fearing God has greater power than any other kind of fear we give way to. In the meantime when it feels like I'm losing to a thousand insecurities, it's best to bring the Lord into the equation, full center. When I have a desire to honor God, there is nothing, I repeat nothing, that will offer my children and me a greater source of safety, security, or refuge.
"Make Your face to shine upon Your servant; Save me in Your lovingkindness.:
*Blue Letter Bible. "Dictionary and Word Search for `oz (Strong's 5797)". Blue Letter Bible. 1996-2013. 9 Mar 2013. < http:// www.blueletterbible.org/lang/lexicon/lexicon.cfm?Strongs=H5797&t=KJV >
3/10/2013 06:24:15 am
Thank you for sharing these encouraging words.
3/10/2013 09:05:21 am
Thank you, Waline! What would we do without the Lord, huh?! :) Hope your fam is well!
Mary Anna Rogers
3/10/2013 12:34:03 pm
Thank you for the reminder. While we might know it in our hearts, it always helps to hear it again. PS. 146:5-6. Love you, my friend.
Hello, Sweet Friend! Thank you for commenting! To hope in the Lord really is our anchor. :)
3/11/2013 06:38:59 am
Thank you so much for your powerful words! As a mother, I am always worried about doing or saying something that will have a long term negative impact on my children. I put a lot of pressure on myself to be a "perfect" mom, which is totally exhausting! Recently, God has opened my eyes to the fact that He is sovereign and my insecurities are unnecessary. God is, and will always be in total control of my life as well as the lives of my children. I think having this peace is exactly what God wants for his children.
3/11/2013 04:10:29 pm
April, we ALL feel this way! Sometimes, everyone else seems like they are doing and saying just the right things at just the right times and life is better than roses (you know, the facebook phenomenon.......argh!) The good news is that at least I feel horrible when I goof--that is a sweet message to myself that I have a heart turned toward my heavenly Father. Because He knows my heart desires His will and His way...I can come to Him without reservation, and His encouragement to me is, "We'll get this next time." Grandma always used to say that God made of us clay. We would laugh and then wonder..."And what on earth was He thinking?!" More laughter. And finally: "Somehow He knew what He was doing." And then of course, we would carry on about the gazillion of other things God could have "made" us of. There is a beauty to just being real before people. We need each other to root us on! Life ain't always pretty.....but God.
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